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Friday, November 6, 2009

Bloom Where You're Planted

Bloom where you are planted! - Anonymous

In our fast paced world it is easy to look at others around us and wish that we had their talent, their skill, their house, their bank account and their future. We are bombarded with messages from the media that tell us to look elsewhere for our success.

We are even told that we aren’t smart enough, young enough, secure enough, rich enough or bold enough unless we use their product, drive their car or go on their vacation. Far too many of us are on a wild goose chase in search of some holy grail that will suddenly make us rich, secure, happy and successful.

With all of this searching, more and more of us are getting depressed and discouraged with our lot in life. We feel as though we just don’t have what it takes to be successful and happy. We truly need to stop looking outside and beyond and start looking inside and beneath our own skin to find what success is really all about.

Dr. Russell Conwell of Temple University once delivered a lecture that was quoted in a December 1980 edition of the wall Street Journal. Dr. Conwell told of a man in Titusville, Pennsylvania, who sold his farm for $833 to go off and search for oil in Canada. The man continued his search for many years but never hit oil, never found success and finally gave up his quest in frustration. He had searched high and low for the magic spot that would give him all the success and security he dreamed of. Yet in his chase he came up entirely empty.

The man who purchased the farm for $833, however, settled into his new environment and worked hard at his labors each day. As he dug a well for additional water, he found instead a rich well of oil and launched a billion dollar industry.

Today, with faster communications and transportation, instant access to information and people, it is ever easier to look at the fact that the grass may appear greener on the other side. Yet what really counts is what is going in your own back yard and what is going on in between your own two ears.

The old saying is true that success is like a butterfly -- the more you chase it the more it eludes you-- but if you will settle in and focus on the task at hand, it will come and softly land on your shoulder. So unpack your bags, bloom where you are planted and find the success, joy and satisfaction that is waiting for you, right where you are – blooming in your own back yard.

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Kind regards,

Ron Stebelton,CEO/Founder

Eagle Leadership Consulting

http://www.eagleleadershipconsulting.com

Monday, October 26, 2009

Excellence Isn't An Accident

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." - Aristotle

Excellence is never an accident - true, lasting, sustainable excellence is a natural by-product of repeated, disciplined action. There are certain disciplines required if you are going to run your business and live your live with excellence.

The legendary Vince Lombardi declared, "Winning isn't a sometimes thing, it is an all the time thing. Winning is a habit - and unfortunately, so is losing." If you are going to win, win big and win over an extended period of time - you must develop the habits of excellence.

Every area of life or business has a set of disciplines or habits which are vital to sustained excellence and success. There are two major factors to developing and deploying these habits of excellence. First, you must understand what the vital habits, skills, attitudes and disciplines are, and second, you must then put yourself on a course to develop them from within.

Talent is important, gifts are great, natural ability goes a long way. Yet, without the discipline to develop the habits of excellence, you will be doomed to mediocrity and middle of the road performance. The path to peak performance personal excellence is littered with talented people who never developed the necessary discipline.

Begin today to identify the habits of excellence you need in your business, or any other area of life, you wish to improve. Then go out and repeat, practice and internalize - make these disciplines true, reflex habits and you will be on your way to achieving the extraordinary.

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Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Life Coaching And You!

From: Ron Stebelton, Certified Professional Coach
Re: Reinventing Yourself Through Life Coaching

Does your life seem out of balance? Do you find yourself
spending too much time working and not enough time
with your family? Do things seem to be crumbling around
you. You don't have enough time to spend on the areas of
your life that make you completely happy? Are your
relationships stressed? Are you neglecting your health? Are
you spiritually where you want to be?

If these questions sound like you? Don't worry, there is
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Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Strategy and Action: Two Keys to Success

Over the past 25 years, I have been involved in leadership positions from school settings, to community projects, to business, to personal life coaching clients. Throughout those years I have spent countless hours reading and researching what makes people successful. I have also been fortunate to have great mentors in my life like Brian Tracy who have helped me personally excel. There are many attributes contributing to success and countless books and dissertations detailing them. However, today I’m going to have you consider two attributes that remain consistent in the research as keys to success: Strategy and Action!

Let’s first address strategy. When you are trying to accomplish an important goal what do you do? Understanding clearly what the goal is, articulating it so it becomes a vivid vision, and writing it down are all key to getting started. But, just writing the goal (although very powerful) isn’t enough to make it happen. You have to strategically plan “how” you’re going to accomplish it.

There are several questions to ask when it comes to strategy:

How will I measure my success of achieving this goal?
Are there constraints of obstacles in my way keeping me from my goal?
Are these constraints internal? Am I holding myself back?
Are these constraints external? Is there something or someone holding me
back?
Are there additional skills and knowledge I require?
Whose help and cooperation do I need?
What should I do more of? Less of?
What should I start doing, or stop doing?

It is important to write these things down on paper. Don’t type them into a computer, get a piece of paper and physically write them. The neuro-connections made by physically writing makes you embed the answers in your subconscious mind. You will be able to more clearly understand each step necessary in order to achieve what you want.

Once you have these things written, don’t be like most people and put off action. Have you ever had the frustrating experience of serving on a committee and all they do is talk never taking action? Likewise, there is nothing more frustrating than when we simply sit on our goals and don’t take action to make them happen. Remember, “If it’s going to be, it’s up to me.”

We know accomplishing something we have been working toward makes us feel terrific. We release endorphins in our bodies that literally give us a “high” and make us even more effective. Think back to a time when you achieved something or did something really well. Do you remember the feeling of accomplishment? It felt great, didn’t it? Well, that’s what you’ll feel when you take action and execute your plans.

Brian Tracy says, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.” Take the time to plan and strategize, then get busy and take action. How do you take action? Use the mind-storming method I learned from Brian Tracy many years ago.

Mind-storming Questions:

1. Take a clean sheet of paper.
2. Write the goal in the form of a question at the top.
3. Write down a minimum of 20 answers to the question.
4. Select at least one of your answers to take action on it immediately.
5. Write that answer as a question on a new sheet of paper.
6. Develop 20 answers to THAT question.
7. Take action on ONE idea immediately.

Try these things when you are ready to move ahead with making a goal a reality. I’ll be happy to help you in any way I can. If you go to my website at http://www.eagleleadershipconsulting.com you can register to receive a goal planning kit that is totally free…my gift to you for taking the next step in making your dreams into goals, and your goals into reality.

Dedicated to your success,
Ron Stebelton
ron@eagleleaderhsipconsulting.com

As an added bonus, here is a video of my friend and mentor Brian Tracy teaching his 10 Goal Method, it is a great addition to my post. Enjoy!

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Travel Club - Pays YOU!

I love to travel. Many of my family and friends just watched us on Facebook complete three weeks of traveling west. It was a great experience, and we are ready to travel some more. What we discovered was that we really enjoyed our uninterrupted time together and that we were ready to take on more travel opportunities. Maybe the beach next time?

I just joined Travel Ventures International and the small initiation fee to get started entitles us to a 6 night - 7 day vacation at a beautiful resort of our choice. Plus the initiation fee helped us get started in a great business opportunity where there will never be any additional fees to belong, or any minimum numbers per month, or any things to stock. It's kind of a no-brainer.

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Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Lessons of Forgiveness

I have written before about the importance of forgiveness in one’s life in order to move forward. For several weeks I had the privilege of listening to Rev. Charles Imhoff during the Sunday morning services at the Lancaster Campground.

The following are points Rev. Imhoff shared as a summary of his talks. Seven points to consider when you are forgiving. As you read them please contemplate who needs forgiven. Forgive those who did it. Forgive those who did nothing. Forgive yourself.

These points are lessons learned from my Christian faith. I make no apologies to anyone for sharing my faith through this writing and so do not ask forgiveness of the reader in that regard. However, even if you are not of the Christian faith, these lessons work.

Don’t tell anyone! That means you don’t go around telling everyone. You don’t brag about it. You just do it. That also applies to forgiving yourself. Rick Warren has said, “Every time you hold your tongue when attacked or misrepresented, your spiritual power grows. Humility gives you authority.” Forgive them, but keep that to yourself.

Don’t let them be afraid of you! What does this mean? It means that if you have forgiven them, you welcome them back without condition. You do not make them afraid or cautious to talk to you; you simply welcome them and let them know how happy you are to be with them. That’s what Jesus taught us through the parable of the prodigal son.

Don’t make them feel guilty. Well, isn’t that a tough one? You forgive them, but now you’re told you can’t make them feel guilty. Then you say, “Where’s the fun in that?” People who like to make other’s feel guilty truly do not experience the power of full forgiveness.

Imparting guilt is as much a wrong as what the person who wronged you did. I know what you thinking… “but what about the person who kills someone or severely hurts someone on purpose?” Remember that arguing from extremes is the weakest kind of argument. We are talking about regular folks and situations that would likely exist within our daily lives. And, we also know of those who have had severe emotional and physical attacks who have learned to forgive in this manner. It is possible.

When forgiving someone it is important to let them “save face.” Protect their self-esteem. Forgiveness does not involve humiliating them privately or publicly. What good does it do for you to forgive someone only if you humiliate them in the process? And, think about this….part of not humiliating is also forgetting.

You say what? Now I have to help them save face and also forget about it? Yes! Christ teaches us that when we are forgiven, He also forgets. That’s an amazing thing to contemplate. I’ll bet you have said, “Oh, I forgive him. But, I’ll never forget.” I have too, and I guess I still do at times. Forgetting is tough, but we have to try in order to fully realize the power of forgiveness.

Protect them from the darkest secrets! Maybe you are the one who needs forgiveness. There is no doubt about the fact that at some point in time we all do things that are wrong. This is when self-forgiveness really comes into play. God really does want to forgive us and because he desires that, He also desires for you to forgive yourself. It eliminates the negative thought patterns that can so often drag us down. He wants you to confess what you have done to Him, but you don’t have to air out all your dirty laundry to your family, friends and neighbors. Realize your faults, but don’t dwell on them. Learn from your mistakes, but don’t dwell on them. Remember not to argue this point from extremes.

Total Forgiveness is a “life sentence.” You may have to forgive them again and again. You may have to forgive yourself again and again. Ok, now you’re making it tough on me! You mean I have to forgive them multiple times? Yes! Because it may just creep back into your life, or something similar may happen. But, we are taught to forgive many times over, because we are forgiven endlessly. If it is done for us, we have to do it for others too.

You bless them! OUCH! This one is the toughest point. Now that you have forgiven unconditionally, you expect me to bless them? If you can do this final step, you will have advanced to the highest state of forgiveness possible. As humans we have a hard time with this one. But, try it. If someone or some people have wronged you, bless them. If there are people who witnessed others hurting you but did nothing, bless them. Bless them continuously until you absolutely believe in what you are doing. Yes, this is the toughest of all the points of forgiveness, but it is the most powerful and liberating. Remember what Jesus said on the cross? “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”

Monday, August 24, 2009

Explore The EDGE Today

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